I want to share the beautiful story of my friendship with Billa, which has been one of the most meaningful parts of my life. We first met in medical school, and although our initial connection was simply through our shared first name, it led to a bond that would last a lifetime.
Billa and I had a lot in common, not just our names, but also a deep and loving nature. Though we were never in the same immediate circle of friends, we always liked each other. Fast forward to when he mesmerized my sister Veena, who had a special connection with my respected mother, a high school principal in Punjab where Veena earned her fame by topping the high school board exams.
My mother held a special place in her heart for Veena. I moved to the USA in 1982, and from 1986 to 1998, my connection with my homeland dwindled as my parents visited and stayed in the USA for six months every year.
In 1998, tragedy struck when my father suddenly passed away while preparing for his 12th trip to the USA. It was the most traumatic period of my life. From 1998 to 2019, I made over 30 trips to India to be with my mom.
During this time, my love story with Billa began to unfold. Both Veena and Billa would visit me in Panchkula during every trip, and Alka and I also visited Yamunanagar several times. Billa’s parents showered us with immense love that’s hard to put into words.
Fast forward to 2018, while I was in a Panchkula hotel taking care of some formalities for my mom’s house sale, Billa, visiting me in a Chandigarh hotel, casually threatened that if I ever stayed in a hotel during my next trips to Chandigarh, he would break my legs. So, in 2019, during my two trips in February and August, I stayed at his place for over 15 days each visit. The Sachdeva family gave me so much love, affection, and tender care.
I remember one particularly hot and humid day in July-August 2019 when Billa saw me miserable. Despite his busy life as a doctor in India, he announced that he was closing his office for 5-6 days to take me to Mussoorie. This act of kindness was the best gift I had ever received.
We even went on a wonderful Mediterranean cruise together in Greece. Then, unfortunately, COVID struck, and Billa received an unfortunate diagnosis. During the pandemic, we FaceTimed 3-4 times a week, and he lovingly scolded me if I didn’t call for more than a few days.
In February (2023 ), I listened to my instincts and planned a 5-day trip to India to see him, as I realized tomorrow might not be promised. It was a blessing to arrange a get-together with some friends and witness him enjoying life, dancing with everyone, and welcoming all with his big heart. But it also brought both joy and sadness to my heart.
I had planned another trip for May 2023, but he had stopped all visitors by then. I respected his wishes and canceled my trip. Then, on the fateful evening of July 23rd, I received the heartbreaking news that Billa had passed away.
Billa, your love and affection were immeasurable, not only towards me but also towards Alka, Naina, and Sahil. You had such a big heart, treating every person you met with the same warmth and kindness. The world will miss you deeply.
Even now, when I wake up in the middle of the night, I sometimes forget and think I need to call you, only to realize the bitter truth that you didn’t take your phone with you to heaven.
Here I want to mention our friend, Kaka Grewal ! A perfect example of selflessness that leads to strong human bonds. He provided an unwavering support and care throughout this difficult period. Such individuals are rare and we are grateful for them. दिल से शुक्रिया, दोस्त ! दोस्त हो तो तेरे जैसा हो !!
I promise you, Billa, that I will stay in touch with the love of your life, my sister Veena, and be there for her whenever she needs me.
Rest in peace, my dear friend. Take care of Auntie, Uncle, and your brother. We love you, Billa.
With love,
Sanjiv
